Notes on Cycling 360km around Qinghai Lake丨It is not easy for children to grow up

When I first arrived in Xining, on the way to take the children to have breakfast, I heard a child ask me: What are we going to eat?

I said: Just go across the street to eat steamed buns and porridge.

Oh, it turns out we came all the way from Beijing and spent money to eat just this.

After listening to this, I felt a little confused and surprised. Maybe everyone really didn’t know much about this ride.

Because it was the day before the camp started, I had a simple meeting with everyone in the evening. In the room, the children were playing with their mobile phones, doing their own things, and joking with each other. Regarding this ride, It seems that few people are truly clear about their expectations and goals and are extremely eager for them.

When the camp started, everyone was completely out of tune. It seemed that cycling had no interest in them at all.

The children's initial state made me worry constantly. So I found Swing and other teachers and said: This time, several children have their own ideas, especially when it comes to riding safety. Because they are either slightly older than previous campers, or they have participated in cycling around Beijing, and some have participated in many similar activities before. He will constantly challenge the rules and have his own ideas.

In this way, the evening review of the first day becomes particularly important. So while the kids were eating, I listed the following:

Highlights from the evening of 8.11:

1. Praise and affirm everyone’s performance during today’s test ride

2. Today’s mileage sharing, everyone’s physical fitness and status survey

3. In today’s test ride, everyone shared their experience on uphill and downhill and roads with lots of cars (everyone spoke)

4. Why do you participate in cycling? No matter what the reason is, share your expectations.

5. The all-round value contract (clear goals, re-clarification of safety rules, attitude and communication) is proposed by the teacher first and allows the children to discuss it by themselves for 10 minutes.

6. Team roles (captain, material manager, safety officer)

7. Instructions on tomorrow’s mileage smart and medals

8. Housekeeping and rest (Throw away the three and four funds)

There was a lot of content, but the children showed great curiosity about this meeting and had a very high sense of participation.

When sharing the fourth question, I rarely heard words such as "I want to challenge myself", but more often said:

My mother said cycling can slim down your legs;

I was deceived by Teacher Sanpi, who said that cycling can help you lose weight;

My mother was deceived by your mother, so I was also deceived;

I originally came with a good friend, but then he stopped coming, so I came alone;

Listening to the children's half-joking and half-serious sharing, some people said that it's all done when you come!

Give children full power, let them express themselves freely, let them have more say and decision-making power, and let them learn to take responsibility on their own in a team. When the children feel this, their state and resistance to this activity gradually begin to decrease. Some people will be more proactive than before.

Thanks to the children's changes and my patience, which made my understanding of them deeper. Any teacher will have some subjective prejudices against children, and this ideological prejudice will inevitably lead to unfair behavior. Therefore, patience is really the most important and most important character to cultivate in education.

On the first day of official cycling, the originally very active children began to slow down. The fatigue of the journey no longer gave them more energy to discuss games. On the contrary, those children who were quiet at first rode silently to the front of the team, moving forward slowly at their own pace, whether it was a long slope or a flat road.

Journey-based projects sometimes do not need too complicated content. The route itself and the experience of this journey will allow children to think and feel on their own. In the next few days of riding, the children's condition continued to improve. They were usually laughing and joking, but they became particularly serious once they started riding. They didn't need too many reminders from the teacher about safety on the road.

Zihan successfully counterattacked in the next three days after experiencing a high resistance on the first day. It’s really enjoyable to chase the first echelon continuously and shout uphill!

Tianrun In order to fulfill his unfinished dream in 2018, this time he is aiming to finish the race and get a medal every day.

Yu Xuan , the youngest member of the team, is getting better and better. Once he finds himself lagging behind, he will stand up and push forward hard.

Xinqi has gradually returned to his languid state from the first day. You can see the changes in the past few days from his gradually widening eyes and eyes while riding.

Aidan was originally the kid with the most severe anti-hyperactivity disorder, but later became the kid with the best physical fitness and condition in the team.

When I think of Zi Qian whom I met during snow mountain climbing, I always worry about his physical fitness and perseverance, but this time he performed unexpectedly, happily riding in the middle of the team every day.

Mu Dong always felt that he was not confident in his physical ability on the first day. Later, after he was asked to go to the front, he never fell behind again. From time to time, he kept reminding and encouraging every riding partner.

Lu Yu had her big breakout in the last two days. On rainy days and in places like Dachangpo, she swayed and persevered in the end. Acceptance of cycling and recognition of herself are the biggest reasons why she has been able to change so much.

Liu Yi has always been a role model in the team. He is the first captain, the first to take the initiative to express his opinions, and the first to comfort and care for others. Being positive and willing to express himself allows him to fully enjoy the journey.

Towards the end of the activity, there was a conflict between the children because everyone was not using very polite language. Later, when I made a return call, I asked Zihan his opinion on this matter. He said, I think everyone made mistakes. Everyone was very excited under the circumstances at that time, so the most important thing is to appease everyone first. mood. Since you can't change others, change yourself to influence others and make others better.

Conflict at camp can have an impact on a child’s experience. But the methods of resolving conflicts and the resulting thinking are factors that affect children's long-term values. I hope they can truly do what the camp motto says: Anyone’s sorrow is my sorrow, and anyone’s joy is my joy. Mutual understanding and tolerance is what prevents such incidents from happening again.

I have specially excerpted some descriptions of the physical, behavioral, emotional and social characteristics of children aged 12-15 from child development psychology. As teachers and coaches, we really need to understand children better and deeper, so that we can prescribe the right medicine and conduct more beneficial treatment for the children. Guidance for growth. Parents are role models who have been with their children for a long time. They have a huge impact on them and can change their children's behavior. Just like some children said, parents need to change family problems and change the way they get along with us, so that we can grow better.

Needs acceptance and trust, lacks self-confidence

Question authority

Start looking at family values

Have a more realistic understanding of yourself and your abilities

Thinking that oneself is the center of attention and that one should receive much attention

On the one hand, I strive for independence, but on the other hand, I also want to have my parents’ help.

Full of sense of justice and emphasizing equality

Become independent from family

Recognize that adults are not always reliable and that adults make mistakes

Confidence more to friends rather than family

desire to be respected

Want to have a say and decision-making power over your own life

During the camp period, children will constantly mention equality and autonomy, the differences in values ​​between their parents’ generation and their own, and their concerns about new things emerging in the new era (such as games, mobile phones, freedom, etc.) ), and the preaching method will only make children more resistant and annoying. Too much interference and prohibition will make them more curious and indulgent about certain things. Once they have the opportunity, they will burst out with that kind of revenge-like experience. And attempts, these are the time bombs buried in the road of children's education.

Finally, there is still a question I want to discuss and think about with you: How should you view the game? How should the so-called equality and freedom between children and their parents be measured and realized?

Personal Opinion

When I was reading a book before, I saw a theory called Self-determination theory (SDT) . It proposed three innate needs. If these needs can be met, it will bring the best to the individual. development and progress.

CompetencyResponsibility:Try to understand the individual's own capabilities and the individual's possible results and effectiveness in completing the task.

belongs to : is based on the instinct of wanting to interact with others. Does this behavior create opportunities to interact with others?

Self-depends on : Whether the behavior and motivation are from the heart, and whether the behavior is self-decision and not influenced by others

For children, the sense of control must be returned to the child in a reasonable and appropriate manner, so that the child can truly grow. Because whether they are self-reliant plumbers or Lang Lang, who is famous at home and abroad, they are all excellent in their own fields, and their essence is "self-determination" - Do what you are good at in the fields you are good at. things and experience the value you pursue.

The impact of games on children largely comes from the fact that children lack a sufficient sense of control in their daily lives and are “unable to make decisions for themselves.”

If he can't handle life or study, he can only turn to games, which can be easily handled and bring immediate joy and pleasure.

If the child can always feel that he can handle his life, and if there is something he cannot handle, he will be optimistic that he can handle it in the future, then he can handle the game problem well. When they come into contact with some risky games, they have developed sufficient risk resistance.